Laverne Cox: ‘Men Who Date Trans Women Face More Stigma’

Jun 19, 2015 at 5:12 pm |

Trans Women Aren’t The Only Group Facing Major Stigmatization

NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 12: Laverne Cox attends the Go Red For Women Red Dress Collection 2015 presented by Macy's fashion show during Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week Fall 2015 at Lincoln Center on February 12, 2015 in New York City. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images for Go Red)

(Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images for Go Red)


Laverne Cox, Emmy award-nominated actress from Orange Is the New Black and transgender activist has been doing some real truth-saying about LGBTQ issues in an attempt to expand the national perspective on the groups that are being marginalized the most, and what she has to say might surprise you.

In a recent interview with SiriusXM News & Issues she noted that for all the discrimination that transgender women face, she believes that the men who date them have it even worse.

“Most men who are attracted to and date transgender women are probably stigmatized more than trans women are,” Cox tells Michelangelo Signorile.

Cox isn’t the first person to note the issue. Janet Mock, well-known activist and New York Times bestselling author has also mulled over the topic, pointing out the demeaning labels society places on men attracted to transgender women.

“We tell men to keep their attraction to trans women secret, to limit it to the internet, frame it as a passing fetish or transaction,” writes Mock. “In effect, we’re telling trans women that they are only deserving of secret interactions with men, further demeaning and stigmatizing trans women.”

Cox offers a solution to the problem, which in effect is not unlike the public coming out and forthcoming transition of Caitlyn Jenner. She believes these men simply need a champion to pave the road to normalize these relationships in the eyes of others.

“I think a man who is dating trans women, who is a celebrity, or famous or is an athlete or something, needs to come forward — or a musician — and needs to say, ‘I love transgender women and [they] deserve to be loved and I’m going to declare that publicly.’ I think those men need some sort of inspiration and hope, so they can live more authentically.”

Effectively this would strengthen not only the voice of men who are attracted to trans women, but the trans women themselves, who are essentially being told they are shameful, disposable, and unworthy of being loved.

The men who love transgender women need to step forward.